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I am considering quitting my job after Xmas. I find it very stressful and confusing, and it is making me miserable. I will have some savings. I am wondering about a complete change of career. Something more relaxed and office based.

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I would love to quit my job too. Husband hasn’t worked for 8+ years now, I wish he would swap with me. We could both do one year on one year off. Or I would love a complete change if I have to work. I’d prefer long hours over less days, doing something completely different. I’ve applied for quite a lot of jobs that I feel capable of, but I’ve got nowhere. I’m sure I could get another minimum wage job, but what’s the point? I work just round the corner from my house, anywhere else I’d have to pay travel and be worse off.
Tbh I’ve not got very good confidence any more. I’m more than capable of doing things, but stress kills me MH-wise so it’s a crappy balancing act.

I hope you have some luck, being London based I would think there’s more jobs than round where I am?
 
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Hi Burt,
I think your making the right decision quitting, hope you find the right job very soon.
Take care
 
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I miss the day centre. it was supet relaxed there. these days I have to get drunk on the weekend to feel better.
maybe I can get a part time job
or just claim ESa again. Idk.
 
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Could you reduce your days or work from home a day or two a week? Just thinking such adjustments might help make it less stressful.
 
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Hi Burt,

I am in agreement, to make the decision of quitting the present work role. How about your IT former work skills, couldn't you look for something along those lines - just a thought, however, and this is where I made my big mistake years ago, just try not to close up on job, without moving onto another one, find the other job first, and then hand notice in to management.


As we all know, in tems of employment or volunteering and mental health, it is the question of finding that geared up prospective work or voluntary employer whom understands, wholeheartedly, regarding mental health and if they should happen to have mental health sufferers or recovered well, on board, I am remembering about an organisation that helped to find placements, for mental health and disabilities, I don't know whether if they are in existance still, or not as the case maybe, now can I name drop? They are known as or were as Remploy. I think, that was the name, although don't count me on this, I think that was the name of this paritcular organisation. I am going back years when I was last generally through the media and advertisments, for jobs, aware about them.


I do wish you well, and best of luck. Ah, you don't want to be worse off, this time round, on ESA, I would seriously think, long , carefully and hard about this.



Best Regards.
 
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I don't think I have that choice. i just find the job very stressful and with being ill it's just too much. i think I need a complete career change
 
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I miss the day centre. it was supet relaxed there. these days I have to get drunk on the weekend to feel better.
maybe I can get a part time job
or just claim ESa again. Idk.
Hi Burt,

I'm sorry to hear that your job is bringing you down and that with you illness it is too much to manage. Is there anyway you could work 2 or 3 days a week? When I first returned to work, 3 days a week was terribly difficult and I felt exhausted only working 22 hours.

I'm a little concerned by your comment that only drinking makes you feel better, but I guess it's concerning you too, otherwise you wouldn't have wrote it.

Maybe you could try to develop somevinterests outside of work which involves socialising to some degree. If you could join some sort of group and develop some friendships it is likely you might feel better about work and yourself in general

Best wishes
 
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I just think it's time for me to retire from software development. I need a fresh new career
 
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I made a good comeback after 7 years on the sick, but I have to admit my job is a game for the young. I am a washed up old has been and should accept it
 
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Hello Burt,
You've been down but not out. I think you have done absolutely amazing.
Plus from where I am, you are but a youngster. :D
Don't put yourself down, you have fought back and respect to you for where you are at.
 
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thanks for the support everyone, believe me it really helps. this is the only place I am me and I can air my thoughts. I am incredibly grateful for all the support I get.

I will talk it over with my dad but I think I have had enough. I need more time to work on my mental health and then look for a new career which is a lot more relaxed.
 
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thanks for the support everyone,
I have had enough. I need more time to work on my mental health and then look for a new career which is a lot more relaxed.
hey mate glad you get good support..

I think you should do whats right for you, if its making you ill again thats no good...

I'm sure with yur skill set something would come along, small contracts, part time working.. all options...

bets of luck.
 
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I have been getting up early and dealing with this job for about 10 weeks now, but I don't think I can continue it indefinitely. Something has got to give.

I am drinking alcohol on the weekends to relax. the stress of the job seeps into my homelife. this never used to happen when i was younger. but also boss is very demanding, and even though he says he will support me, he has complained when i asked for his help, and sometime he mocks me a little.

I am intelligent enough but the mind that has been ravaged with illness finds it hard to cope.

My plan is to hand in my notice to HR after xmas, because boss will be on holiday. I have a 6 week notice period, and I will take the remainder of my holidays during my notice period.

i have just seen my GP and told him I want to quit my job because of stress. I told him it is not worth it just because of money. He agreed with me in the end. He said he was surprised I jumped back in on the deep end after being out of work for 7 years.

I gave it my best shot, but like others on this forum, I have found the transition from benefits to full time work very challenging.

I want to go back to my life of going to the day centre and doing country walks. maybe a part time job will figure in my life if I Can get one.
 
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I would quite like to work at a funeral business. It would suit me and my interest in death.
 
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I work in an office.

I find it ok, but it can be stressful sometimes. I only work four days which helps me a lot. I find this time to unwind keeps me going and means I can look after my flat properly.

I hope you can find a job that suits you.
 
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I hope the best for you, Burt. If anyone deserves for things to work out for them, it is you.
 
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I am slightly calmer today knowing that I have a plan to quit. still stressful though. I am glad it is Friday. my dad came round last night. I told him I was suicidal and he told me to stuff the job
 
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Yeah, if it's not working out, I agree with your dad.

At least you've done it, and now got a better idea of what you want to do, so you've gained a huge amount from it.

Hopefully, as you say, now you have a plan and know it won't last, it should hugely reduce the stress :)
 

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